I’m not a big fan of the phrase ‘filling your cup’ #sorrynotsorry
Looking after ‘you’ is super important but ‘filling your cup’ doesn’t really stress how important it is to have a full cup in the first place, how your cup empties itself and indeed how you go about refilling it!
I quite like the oxygen mask analogy which demonstrates how fundamental self care is – If you’re on a plane and the oxygen masks drop down, what is your instinct?
Your first thought might be that you obviously want to ensure your nearest and dearest who are on the flight with you get their masks on first. But if you ensure they have their masks on first, what happens to you?
Yup, you guessed it, you’re unconscious.
Therefore you need to put your mask on first, so that you can be there for the people you love.
The same applies to self care. If you aren’t looking after yourself properly, what good are you to the people around you? And how can you run your business effectively if you’re running on empty?
I’ve come up with a new concept for the importance of self care and it’s based around your inner psyche being like a library.
Here’s how it works…
Imagine a bookshelf, filled with books – this represents your inner psyche and wellbeing
When your library is full; you’re feeling pretty good. All your books are sat safely on the shelves and you can focus and get on with life.
Each ‘book’ represents something, such as an activity, relationships, finances etc. – anything that has a positive or negative impact on your day to day life
Every time you partake in something that has a negative impact on your day to day life, remove a book
Every time you partake in something that has a positive impact on your day to day life, add a book
Can you imagine how quickly you could lose your books if you’re having a bad week?
When our library gets low, we can start to feel…
This is NOT good for you, your family or your business!
So how can we ensure we keep our library stocked up? This is where you need to be strict about your self care and MAKE TIME for yourself as much as your circumstances permit.
It’s not just about having a nice long soak in the bath (although that is really nice and does help), it’s about creating and sticking to consistent daily habits which are just for you. Drinking enough water, feeding your body with healthy, nutritious foods, going to exercise classes, practising affirmations, journaling, trying new things, meditating…just LOVING yourself so you can give love to others.
Need more inspo? Read my blog about getting your mojo back which has lots of great self care tips: suzannah.me/ways-mojo-back
So there you go, my library analogy. I hope this works for you better than filling your cup or whatevs.
Let me know how you keep your inner library stocked up in the comments!