It’s great that we live in a day and age where not everything is about us.
We try to improve not only our lives, but the lives of others as well. The trouble is that often means we neglect ourselves and end up feeling drained and unproductive.If you’re looking to feel like a better ‘you’, the following thirty tips will help you start to feel amazeballs again – follow them for 30 days and your mojo will be back in no time.
Take Time for You
While you might associate being a better person with doing more for others, the truth is you need to take time for yourself in order to be that giving person. If you are burned out and stressed, you wont be a positive contribution to anyone.
Create Daily Me Time
Once you understand that taking time out for yourself is vital, it’s time to schedule it so set aside some time every day. You might feel like you’re far too busy but guess what? You can definitely find 15 minutes every day – no excuses.
Be Dedicated to Your Personal Time Now
If you don’t respect your personal time, no one else will. Take your 15 minute meditation time in the morning (I use the HeadSpace app for 10 minutes every day) or have some daily time to go for a brisk walk or read a spiritual/mindfulness book.
Let Others Know You are Serious about Your Personal Time
Once you have an established amount of time and set time of day, let everyone know you have a big, “Do Not Disturb” sign on your back. It’s fifteen minutes a day for goodness sake. Everyone will survive without you for a while.
Start a Gratitude Journal
When you are feeling overwhelmed, grab a journal and write down your feelings – even if they are negative. Then, give it a new spin. For example, when I missed out on an event that I really wanted to attend, instead of feeling down about it, I turned it around and made sure I did something else productive. Besides, there are 100’s of other business events that I can go to.
Practice Journaling Randomly
Journaling releases negativity and toxicity from your body, soul and mind. However, journalling also resets your mindset. Don’t just fill a journal with negative stuff. If your partner or child makes you smile or performs a kind gesture, write it down. It will give you something to look at when you miss them or are really mad at them in the moment.
Keep Positive People Close to You
Your attitude will directly affect your day; so if you are being sour and negative, your day will spiral into a sour and negative day. Keep positive friends close by and reel them in when you need a boost. Don’t be ashamed of your bad moods, just take responsibility for them. Grab a friend, talk about it and then let it go.
Keep Negative People out of Your Bubble
You will never rid yourself of all the negative people in your life. After all, some of them might be your friends or family members! You can, however, keep them at a distance while enclosing yourself in a more protected bubble. You don’t have to let their negativity into your space. Make a choice to slowly distance yourself from them and know that their negativity has nothing to do with you; it’s their stuff; don’t own it for yourself.
Choose How You Start Your Day
You can choose to start your day grumpy and irritable or you can choose to start your day grateful that you were given another chance to enjoy life and love. The choice is always yours. I use tapping EFT as a way to start my day when I first sit down at my computer.
Choose Your Filters Wisely
If you read negative stories, watch the news and get involved in gossip, you will most likely end up with negative thoughts. After all, negative stories are what so much of these things focuses on these days. Choose what books, music and television you let in. Stop ‘hanging out’ on social networking and take responsibility for your own actions.
Listen to the Right Kinds of Music
Uplifting music will change your brain waves and fast music will give you a boost of adrenaline. If you are feeling low, pop on some dance tunes and watch how quickly your toes will begin to tap.
Start Your Day the Right Way
Start your day the right way with one positive thought, affirmation or conversation. If you read something positive, think something positive or say something positive, your day will be that much better and you will have done this by your own power. I love the ThinkUp iPhone app which is ideal for recording your own affirmations.
Laugh it Off
Have you ever started your day by tripping over something, losing your car keys or finding that the local cats have littered your rubbish everywhere looking for leftover meaty titbits? Rather than get upset, laugh it off as life stuff and see the funny side.
Smile a Little
Smiling releases serotonin. When something goes wrong or someone irritates you, smile about it. You will instantly feel better for being positive and you may help lift their bad mood too. Even if you are in a really bad mood, fake that smile baby! Psychological studies based around the ‘As if’ theory show that if you force a smile, you will feel happier – try it!
Be the Person You Envision
If you want to attract more success – be the person that you envision successfully reaching those goals. Be someone who sets goals, takes risks and faces challenges with grace. While hard at first, the more you practice, the closer you will be to becoming that successful person.
Time to Get Organised
Set up a filing system, get a calendar and keep it updated, throw out your unnecessary junk. Once the initial work is done, all you have to do is maintain the organised systems.
Chunk your time into sections and give yourself an allotted time frame for whatever you are doing and stick to it. Have you ever started cleaning out a cupboard in the bedroom and somehow found yourself cleaning the kitchen only to return to the bedroom and it’s still a mess? You’re not alone. Give yourself 30 minutes to clean out a cupboard and then when the time is up, move on to the next chore. Do this at work and at home and you’ll find you get a lot more accomplished each day.
Use Your Mobile Phone
Use your timer on your phone to time your tasks, whether it’s running errands, cleaning or making phone calls. Knowing how long you generally spend on these tasks can help you see where you can make improvements which will reduce the stress in your life.
Use your mobile phone for reminders on your calendar; be it birthdays, appointments or remembering to take the clothes out of the dryer. Set up your bills to be automatically paid each month. Research online ahead of time where you’ll get the best deals before going shopping. Don’t be embarrassed or think you are failing at remembering. Instead consider it not having to worry about remembering because it’s done for you.
Get an App
There is an app for everything today from travelling to banking. When you are on the train, waiting in line at the supermarket or in the car waiting to collect your child from their school/activities, you can get things done that you’d would normally have to wait for lunch hour or days off. Being able to accomplish more during these wait times will give you more free time for yourself.
Shut Down and Unplug
Take time off from technology and unplug from your social devices. If you want to be a better you, you need connections – real life connections. You need to see faces and hear voices and so do other people. Take the initiative and plan a real-life coffee date. You’ll make a difference for yourself and for someone else.
Pick and Choose Your Time
Only you can schedule your time productively. If you choose to scroll on Facebook or to stay up late and oversleep in the morning, the results will be an unfocused and unproductive life. Choose and schedule your time carefully and reap the positive benefits.
Set Attainable Goals
If you set your sights too high, you are more likely to fail. It’s ok to have one big goal but break it into smaller attainable goals to work towards. Completing these smaller goals will keep you motivated, no matter how long it takes you to reach the final big goal.
Grab an Accountability Partner
When you set a new goal, it’s important to let people know about it. It’s also important to obtain an accountability partner. When you know you have to answer to your accountability partner and that others are watching your progress, you will work that much harder so you don’t disappoint anyone, including yourself. You also have that partner cheering you on from the sidelines.
Learn the Power of No
Learn how to say no; while difficult at first, it gets easier with time. Saying no frees you up to do what is necessary for a healthy, productive life.
Incorporate Health Routines
Never forget the importance of health routines. Keeping fit is your responsibility and it doesn’t have to be sixty hours of cardio or 100 pounds of weightlifting. A simple power walk will suffice, but do it daily and stick to it.
Pay Attention to What You Eat
You only have one body. How you feed it is up to you. Avoid foods that only drag the body down such as heavy carbs and sugar loaded baddies. When you eat right, you feel great.
Pay Attention to How You Eat
It’s just as important to pay attention to how you eat as it is to what you eat. Take your time, slow down and eat sitting down. Try not to talk while eating and definitely don’t be working on your smart phone or tablet! Take a few minutes to digest after eating. While it is the practice of today’s society to “do lunch,” it’s important to breathe right and eat right for proper digestion.
Take a Time Out
Close your eyes and take a few deep breaths a few times a day, even if you have to go out to your car or take a bathroom break. A few minutes of deep breathing and relaxation can reset your mindset for the rest of the day.
Get the Proper Rest
Lack of sleep can make you feel bad and have negative thoughts. If you’re not getting enough sleep at night consider taking a power nap during the day. Even 15 minutes can reset you mood, creativity and your focus. Set your alarm for 15 minutes and watch how much more energized you will feel afterwards. Drink a glass of water before bedtime to hydrate your body and help it flush toxins. Drink another glass first thing in the morning before eating or drinking anything else to help kick start your organs.
I hope that by following these tips for 30 days, you’ll start to feel like a real Superstar again! If you’ve got any tips to get your mojo back, share them below.